So I just read a short article about when the author believes it is okay to tell a lie. Now being human, I have told some lies. In fact I've made a concerted effort in the last few years to tell fewer lies and for the most part I have succeeded.
So the article gave a list of four times when it is okay to lie.
1. When the truth tears someone down and makes them feel awful about themselves. She says, "Brutal honesty can be used as a toxic weapon." I agree. Sometimes honesty is not the best policy when it can hurt someone's heart.
2. White lies like Santa Claus protect a child's innocence and creativity.
3. In response to favors or queries as to how you are doing. "It's no trouble at all", "I'm doing okay".
4. Complimenting someone past what they deserve. "Your brownies are the best I've ever had."
She offers a little bit of wisdom too: The major difference between a white lie and a hard lie is that a hard lie is said to protect oneself, whereas a little white lie is said to protect someone else.
You know I think that's pretty wise. Sometimes a little lie goes a long way to lubricate the machinery of society. So... what do you think? Do you agree with the four examples? Can you think of others? Or should we do away with lies as best we can?
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